tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5147169008532137469.post6702306070403250564..comments2022-11-22T05:15:55.259-06:00Comments on Oddity of Oddities: Motherhood Ache.Helenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04044605316121029114noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5147169008532137469.post-52385513075494807282009-08-31T20:33:54.430-05:002009-08-31T20:33:54.430-05:00Ahh...the ache. The terrible ache. I wanted babies...Ahh...the ache. The terrible ache. I wanted babies from the day we said "I do". We both wanted to wait, though, for practical reasons. I agreed with waiting..I knew we NEEDED to wait. At least a year. And we did. But I was antsy for that year to be up about 2 days into it :) <br /><br />One thing I figured out was that bringing it up didn't help. And that I couldn't "talk him into it". So....after I figured that out, I had one discussion with him. I laid it out to him completely. I told him just HOW much my heart was aching for it...and I told him how incredibly ready I was...and I told him I wanted to be on the same page and I wanted HIM to want it to. I asked him what his fears were. I told him to really think about it. And I told him that I wouldn't bring it up again, but that I was eagerly waiting for the day that he was ready. And after that I prayed....for two things really. I prayed that God would make his heart ready for kids and I prayed that God would give me contentment for the wait no matter how long it might be. <br /><br />I didn't bring it up again. And he ended up "being ready" sooner than I expected...sooner than we had talked about. <br /><br />I am definitely not saying this is how you should handle things. And I am not saying things will work out the same way for you. But I AM saying that prayer can do amazing things for BOTH of you. I know you know this. But I just wanted to encourage you. I am praying for you too. I love you!!danihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04495961676678947245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5147169008532137469.post-71915155816270354722009-08-30T22:08:25.060-05:002009-08-30T22:08:25.060-05:00I saw your comment on Blessed Quiver and it led me...I saw your comment on Blessed Quiver and it led me here. We have one child and I am so happy and grateful for my little girl. But, I very much am wanting another one. I totally understand how you feel and you never feel more impatient then when you want to have a child. It took us a year and a half to get pregnant with Alana. It's been over a year of "trying" for this second one and the waiting it about to drive me crazy. As for your husband, it is important you are both on the same page with this decision. I would pray for him. It might be he's just scared about the reality of caring for and providing for a little one. I know that was a lot for my husband. My daughter is now four and he is a great dad. I think men get overwhelmed with the "responsibility" of it all. I can imagine serving in the military comes with it's own fear and worry about having a baby. I don't know you, but I will say a prayer for you tonight and your situation. God bless.The McGregor Clanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07497252537624790284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5147169008532137469.post-47884343007748423392009-08-28T11:19:12.690-05:002009-08-28T11:19:12.690-05:00Ah sister, I FEEL YOU!! I had one child for years...Ah sister, I FEEL YOU!! I had one child for years and years and wanted more. I'm so thankful that my husband has allowed me to have this many.<br /><br />When we were first married we were "waiting" too. Some good, Christian friends who couldnt have children, asked what we were waiting for. We decided we werent going to wait anymore.<br /><br />How much money do you need?<br /><br />Show him IN BLACK AND WHITE how much money the baby will add:<br /><br />Diapers (or cloth)<br />formula (or breastfeed)<br />new clothes (or hand me downs and garage sales)<br /><br />sometimes men need to see in black and white.<br /><br />COme prepared to the discussion with NO EMOTIONS. Men dont work that way. Leave the emotions out of it.<br /><br />Show him how his life will change very little and how you will do most of everything. How the finances wont change that much.<br />HOW MUCH THIS MEANS TO YOU.<br /><br />And are you sure you are going to start? <br /><br />Don't feel bad for feeling this way...it's normal.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14646178772882717555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5147169008532137469.post-1194706325976169992009-08-27T20:45:04.631-05:002009-08-27T20:45:04.631-05:00I would say just be patient but I know you don'...I would say just be patient but I know you don't want to hear that : ). I want a baby too. My husband isn't giving in. I just keep praying and hoping it will happen sooner rather than later! Don't worry! At just the perfect time you will get your baby! : )Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07874897254332872367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5147169008532137469.post-85443761203387021932009-08-22T13:26:32.545-05:002009-08-22T13:26:32.545-05:00Let me add, here, before anyone else comments that...Let me add, here, before anyone else comments that I understand the wait. I see the intelligent side of it. Yes, another car would be a plus, which is what we're working for right now, as well as the thousands of dollars it takes to prepare for a wee one. Intellectually, I don't mind the waiting, I know that now is okay, but not the best time... but my heart is telling me something completely different. I have followed my heart only one time. Everything else has been my head, my mind, my God-given common sense. I followed my heart to Andrew, and I can't help but think, if my heart has led me to something that wonderful before, why wouldn't it this time?Helenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04044605316121029114noreply@blogger.com